tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732986029734064376.post8719944444171813404..comments2013-06-12T17:33:00.139-04:00Comments on My son's a 'retard'!*: BACKLASH!Kathleen Quinnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02490775018332263049noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732986029734064376.post-8473324803031823682012-02-08T15:21:00.382-05:002012-02-08T15:21:00.382-05:00*HUGE SMILE*! Thank you! I wish I could think of ...*HUGE SMILE*! Thank you! I wish I could think of something witty in return but I can't top you! Woo!Kathleen Quinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02490775018332263049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732986029734064376.post-36384239454741595002012-02-08T15:16:26.927-05:002012-02-08T15:16:26.927-05:00I have twin boys, one of whom was diagnosed with F...I have twin boys, one of whom was diagnosed with FX at 4.5 months. Love your blog, love the article, love your snaps, love your pics of your beautiful son, love that I can hear myself in your words and that validates me and the very real struggle FX moms face, love it! So... fuck everyone else. What the hell do they know about our real lives, the one that isn't all made up and polished for the world? Fuck off and read something else. ...but you know, maybe that's just me.One Fragile X Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09789421967825416608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732986029734064376.post-44576981805347142832012-01-04T20:54:03.513-05:002012-01-04T20:54:03.513-05:00WOW!!!!! I loved what you wrote, and I suspect tha...WOW!!!!! I loved what you wrote, and I suspect that those who are too tight lipped/arsed to say, no, not say, shout, FUCK! when they are faced with the fears and struggles we live with on a daily basis, then I suspect that they are 'releasing' in other ways that may not be so healthy for them or their children. I think that I'm a much better parent to my FX'ers because I allow myself to verbally vent and fuck is one of the nicer words I use when I've been confronted with ignorant people who think it's ok to point and stare at my beautiful boys for behaving differently to what they see as 'the norm'.<br /><br /> I never do it in public places and never in front of the children. I lost count of the times my daughter came home from her 'normal' school in tears because of things other children had said about children like her brothers.<br /><br /><br />Good for you Kathleen, you are a breath of fresh air and I only wish there were more people out there who were brave enough to tell it like it is . . . You're a star, keep shining and KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK! ! The more people who are provoked into a reaction, the more people will be made aware of the hurt they causeDizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04610050844114821405noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732986029734064376.post-21011709575108588392011-12-21T10:36:00.707-05:002011-12-21T10:36:00.707-05:00Thanks for the support ladies - and Carrie, you ar...Thanks for the support ladies - and Carrie, you are 100% correct, unfortunately my ego gets bruised easily when it comes to this particular topic! I'm working on it...<br />And Jennifer, wow, that is praise in the highest to me! Thank YOU for NOT being offended and 'getting' it! <br />Laura, thanks for being my 'real' person in so many ways... <br />And Janice, you ARE my hero!!Kathleen Quinnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02490775018332263049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732986029734064376.post-60747658102018350372011-12-20T15:07:25.146-05:002011-12-20T15:07:25.146-05:00Kathleen, I just so happened upon your blog becaus...Kathleen, I just so happened upon your blog because of a comment you left on babycenter... I am a devout Christian, a mother, a wife, have a full time job and I try REALLY hard not to swear for fear my child will think I'm imperfect, and because it's the not so Chrisitan thing to do... BUT I am also human and the "F" word slips out of my mouth more often than I'd admit to. I find your blog delightfully humorous!! And it gives me the comfort of knowing that the stress I put myself through, or so it seems, every day, is normal. So, thank you! And keep writing, please.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17874749155984145903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732986029734064376.post-92115702598989667522011-12-13T13:37:42.966-05:002011-12-13T13:37:42.966-05:00Kathleen, We received 3 negative letters and about...Kathleen, We received 3 negative letters and about 10 positive ones. Most stories that we run never generate a single comment. People are just too busy and are not going to write in unless they are moved in some way.Two of the negative letters are from women who are uncomfortable with swearing. That's pretty easy to take. The last woman was so irrational saying that bsp promotes slurs by printing the words, "My son's a retard." She could not see past that line and view it in the context. It's frustrating when people want to express their viewpoint but are not open to others'. That conversation went nowhere.Carrie Wattuhttp://baystateparent.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732986029734064376.post-81754684750079472892011-11-30T01:10:26.810-05:002011-11-30T01:10:26.810-05:00so many other things to be outraged over in this w...so many other things to be outraged over in this world...it seems to me that the discomfort readers feel from reading the "F" word stems from the idea of a mom using it. Mothers don't swear, you know. <br />I've worked with kids with Fragile X, that baffling little life-changer, that mysterious chromosonal dirty trick played on the loveliest of families. If my own child had been diagnosed with FX I can assure you, the F Bomb I'd drop in the MD's office would be heard from here to Peru and back again.<br /> "Retard" is far more offensive than the versatile little "F"...it's a verb! It's an adjective!It's a noun when preceded by "cluster" - "F'd" describes how a parent feels when given the diagnosis of Fragile X. You have my blessing to use it wherever and whenever you like, if it helps you cope in any way. Raw feelings elicit raw language. JANICE HARVEYjanice harveynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2732986029734064376.post-82254135261611495872011-11-29T14:21:35.752-05:002011-11-29T14:21:35.752-05:00My Favorite Blog (Besides Yours) Is http://www.mat...My Favorite Blog (Besides Yours) Is http://www.mattlogelin.com/ He lost his wife within 24 hours of giving birth of his beautiful daughter. He uses the F word A LOT. He is well respected, has done a lot of good work for young widows and has written a book about his experience. Check out his "warning" on his blog. As someone who knows you in "real life", I can speak to your ability to be a professional. Real people swear when things go wrong. Keep being REAL.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00285159338975815673noreply@blogger.com